• Daefsdeda@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    Oh no my current partner has had sex before with someone and they are grown up enough to still be able to talk with them. /s

    But for real though, it is more a green flag for me than a red flag.

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      6 months ago

      The above is oversimplified and written to elicite a chuckle but most people aren’t that comfortable with having another human being (I don’t discriminate; just aiming for the most probable scenario) their significant other used to pork on a more or less distant past staying around. Most will have doubts about their relationship and its heading. Or even worst.

      Monkey brain and pride computes around “If they porked in the past, did they stop completely or is it a come and go situation?” Humans are strange creatures.

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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        6 months ago

        So you don’t trust your partner then? I’ve had ex’s that I remained friends with and they had ex’s that they remained friends with. As long as no one’s an asshole about it it’s fine. The fact that you used to sleep with someone doesn’t always mean you’re just waiting for an opportunity to jump on them again.