As one of them autistic idiots, I really wish people would be straight up, clear as fuck, and brutally honest about everything they are feeling/ thinking. If your bored, just fucking tell me your bored. If you don’t want to be around me, just fucking tell me you don’t want to be around me. I’m not likely to be offended and then I don’t have play the agonizing game of “Guess That Weird Human Emotion I Can’t Comprehend”.
I don’t think your perspective is invalid in the slightest, just offering a different perspective of the same coin. As with every social thing, its all circumstantial. Saying something like this to your boss during a meeting or the VIPs at wedding, is probably not going to so well. But if you know the person and its helpful to them in some way, then I would actually encourage this language.
And I have autistic friends who would straight up never forget being told something that cruel, even if they agreed they were being boring. Partly because they would agree they must be boring.
It’s like you can’t paint everyone in a broad category the same or something.
My autistic ass would never speak to someone who said that to me ever again. How could I? I’m so bad at being a human I was told to my face I’m not even worthy of the basics of human interaction politeness. How could I ever bother them again? I’d be inclined to just hide in the house for ages also.
It’s not like the healthiest method but I just. How would I deal with that? And god forbid it was in a group setting, I’d probably burst into tears as well.
The point is that there are better and more kind ways to get the desired outcome (the end of the topic or conversation) than vocally blaming the boredom that you’re feeling on the other person.
If I’m talking to someone, they interrupt me, tell me I’m boring, and then leave, that kinda feels awful. Yes, I do want the feedback, and someone straight up telling me that is probably better than pretending or looking at their phone, but I’d rather they tease me with a “get to the point”.
In 1970 a group of soviet researchers set out to investigate the deep seismic and thermal properties of the Baltic shield. They set about drilling the hole on the kola peninsula and after a number of setbacks they finally reached the current deapth of 12262 m in 1989. To this day it is the deepest hole on the planet by several km.
But, in their 19 years of drilling, those soviet scientists didn’t bore that hole as much as you’ve just bored me.
As one of them autistic idiots, I really wish people would be straight up, clear as fuck, and brutally honest about everything they are feeling/ thinking. If your bored, just fucking tell me your bored. If you don’t want to be around me, just fucking tell me you don’t want to be around me. I’m not likely to be offended and then I don’t have play the agonizing game of “Guess That Weird Human Emotion I Can’t Comprehend”.
I don’t think your perspective is invalid in the slightest, just offering a different perspective of the same coin. As with every social thing, its all circumstantial. Saying something like this to your boss during a meeting or the VIPs at wedding, is probably not going to so well. But if you know the person and its helpful to them in some way, then I would actually encourage this language.
And I have autistic friends who would straight up never forget being told something that cruel, even if they agreed they were being boring. Partly because they would agree they must be boring.
It’s like you can’t paint everyone in a broad category the same or something.
My autistic ass would never speak to someone who said that to me ever again. How could I? I’m so bad at being a human I was told to my face I’m not even worthy of the basics of human interaction politeness. How could I ever bother them again? I’d be inclined to just hide in the house for ages also.
It’s not like the healthiest method but I just. How would I deal with that? And god forbid it was in a group setting, I’d probably burst into tears as well.
The point is that there are better and more kind ways to get the desired outcome (the end of the topic or conversation) than vocally blaming the boredom that you’re feeling on the other person.
If I’m talking to someone, they interrupt me, tell me I’m boring, and then leave, that kinda feels awful. Yes, I do want the feedback, and someone straight up telling me that is probably better than pretending or looking at their phone, but I’d rather they tease me with a “get to the point”.
In 1970 a group of soviet researchers set out to investigate the deep seismic and thermal properties of the Baltic shield. They set about drilling the hole on the kola peninsula and after a number of setbacks they finally reached the current deapth of 12262 m in 1989. To this day it is the deepest hole on the planet by several km.
But, in their 19 years of drilling, those soviet scientists didn’t bore that hole as much as you’ve just bored me.
Good day.