It’s more the “minimum effort” sort of thing my mom has going on. See before “I left at 15”. edit Sorry the “before” is in another thread
I don’t think it was elective, no, it was because me and my brothers werr were all super large and wouldn’t really have fit. Too much for her to handle? That’s why I had to be own my own? That sort of thing more than anything “untimely ripped”.
But see the thing is my mom’s attitude reflects the attitude of the society, so it’s more like they looked at the ultras and went “oh, that’s gonna be too hard”.
And that’s something I’ve kept hearing all my life. People not wanting to do something because it has the possibility of going wrong. Everything does. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. Even when the odds are super low.
I’m not shaming my mom for the C-sections. I am shaming her, but not for THAT.
Yeah I’ve seen what the baby’s skull goes through in birth, I don’t feel like I’ve missed out. Although there are also studies as to the reactions of the immune system to the birthing canal. But there’s studies into everything. Like I said, there’s no meaningful difference. It’s not as if I go around thinking people are “smushbrains” because they were born “naturally”, nor do I ever shame anyone FOR having a c-section. I might shame people who have had them, but not FOR having had them.
I’ve had major abdominal surgery two times and it’s no joke. And mine wasn’t like a thing that wished to come out. I spent almost a week in the ICU.
Okay I get the symbolism, you’re like MacDuff. “From my mother’s womb untimely ripp’d.”
And she’s not off the hook for being an asshole.
But even an uncomplicated C-section is major abdominal surgery and much more difficult to heal from than an uncomplicated vaginal birth.
And it’s often done as a response to a vaginal birth that’s going terribly wrong, in which case there can be scarring from that trauma as well.
So it’s not like it “doesn’t count.” There’s a certain amount of C-section birth shaming out there, not that you’re part of that.
It’s easier on the baby, so that’s one time you won out.
No… that’s not it.
It’s more the “minimum effort” sort of thing my mom has going on. See before “I left at 15”. edit Sorry the “before” is in another thread
I don’t think it was elective, no, it was because me and my brothers werr were all super large and wouldn’t really have fit. Too much for her to handle? That’s why I had to be own my own? That sort of thing more than anything “untimely ripped”.
But see the thing is my mom’s attitude reflects the attitude of the society, so it’s more like they looked at the ultras and went “oh, that’s gonna be too hard”.
And that’s something I’ve kept hearing all my life. People not wanting to do something because it has the possibility of going wrong. Everything does. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. Even when the odds are super low.
I’m not shaming my mom for the C-sections. I am shaming her, but not for THAT.
Yeah I’ve seen what the baby’s skull goes through in birth, I don’t feel like I’ve missed out. Although there are also studies as to the reactions of the immune system to the birthing canal. But there’s studies into everything. Like I said, there’s no meaningful difference. It’s not as if I go around thinking people are “smushbrains” because they were born “naturally”, nor do I ever shame anyone FOR having a c-section. I might shame people who have had them, but not FOR having had them.
I’ve had major abdominal surgery two times and it’s no joke. And mine wasn’t like a thing that wished to come out. I spent almost a week in the ICU.