Like, seriously, I have had a few people talk about how my fiancé wasn’t conventionally attractive, but he’s attractive to me :)

Plus, he’s good to me, and I don’t date for looks. I’ve had conventionally attractive exes too who have been horrible people, so…

    • Pandemanium@lemm.ee
      191·
      15 days ago

      Your personal judgements about others are not “an elephant in the room” that needs to be talked about. They are not objective facts. Ask yourself, when you think someone is unattractive, why is it so important to you that they know you think they are unattractive? What do you think you are accomplishing by bringing it up?

    • SolOrion@sh.itjust.works
      141·
      15 days ago

      It’s not about being open and honest. It’s about that not being relevant. Your opinion on how someone looks isn’t relevant, helpful, or necessary unless it’s directly asked for.

      There’s nothing awkward, nervous, or repressed about not going out of your way to open your mouth and make someone feel bad about themselves. You can simply not fucking say something that crosses your mind.

      “Brutally honest” people are incredibly annoying. They think they’ve discovered a social cheat code so they can get away with being an absolute ass because they’re just an Honest Person™.

    • Empricorn@feddit.nlEnglish
      8·
      15 days ago

      beating around the bush

      everything that could possibly be sensitive

      Being nervous and awkward

      avoiding the elephant in the room

      self consciousness

      You’re literally strawman-ing what I said. Empathy is considering others. It really is that simple…