• peoplebeproblems@midwest.social
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    1 day ago

    I guess I wasn’t taking it personally rather I was surprised this was your experience. More often than not ive heard from friends their lives got much easier without the two of them arguing all the time after they separated.

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      22 hours ago

      Your experience absolutely isn’t universal. There are millions of us with mental health issues directly related to our parents divorce and their behavior after separating.

      It’s super common for parents to use their children as middlemen in their arguments once they’re separated, as well as trying to turn the child against the other parent.

      I’m glad your divorce was different, though.

    • Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org
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      That means you have a good social circle 😄 I mean eventually it gets easier for everyone but the divorce itself is often brutal for kids if the parents start arguing about money, custody and so on. Kids often see it as their responsibility to mediate between their parents and end up in the crossfire. It’s unfortunately quite common, there are entire books about it.