Forgive my terrible phone doodle, but I think this is what’s being suggested. Basically, you’re groin-to-ass below, but above your chest is not pressed directly against the front partner’s back. Instead, you position the lower arm so your forearm runs across their back, and wrap the upper arm over them in a half embrace.

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I appreciate the thoughtful response - I haven’t noticed that trend specifically with BI, but have seen the general tendency you’re describing in media at large. For this specific article, I find the concept of a dumb phone more intriguing than “Lifehack: Eat Gruel!” Type stuff – see my other comment in this thread if you’re curious about why – but also did roll my eyes at the person who has three such devices for different purposes.

Thanks for elaborating!

I agree with you in concept, but I think in practice people struggle with the self discipline, and that’s kind of the fundamental problem with apps (and particularly algorithm-based social media). I’ve set timers to limit my usage of certain apps, including my Lemmy app, to encourage mindful use, but I can understand why someone might want or need more of an enforced limitation.

You might not replace your current phone with a “dumb” device, but when it’s time to get a new device eventually, you could ask yourself if less-smart device might meet both your functional and other needs.

Edit: I guess to me this is kind of like: why are people overweight? They can just not eat as much. And while that’s technically true - and advice I follow - it’s apparently not that easy for everyone. If it was, we wouldn’t see problems as pervasively as we do.

Genuine question - can you speak more on how this article would promote a social trend in a “serflike” direction? I’ve been thinking about switching to a “dumb phone” for the same reasons as the person in the article, and I’ve seen it as a potential reclamation of my time and attention to the present moment.

BI definitely publishes a lot of nonsense, but I feel like I’m not fully understanding your meaning.

Kiki’s Delivery Service is just a wonderful movie. It’s completely unlike any of my other favorites, but I adore it completely. It’s like a warm, cozy blanket.

My next favorite is probably Spirited Away.

Not sure what the word is, but this could be in Mother Night, based on the subject matter.

The trick for anything is time and consistency. Choose two or three things from this list and plan when you will devote a few hours each week. During your “practice” time, find and use learning resources online.

Some of these ideas are also shorter-term kind of forming things (like avoid brain rot, touch more grass), so I would also dedicate time weekly to think of/plan concrete changes in your life to accomplish them. Rotate through the list until the habit is fully formed.