Dude, read the comments on this post and then go outside and talk to a woman. See if anything said here makes sense. Multiple people here have admitted to never being in a relationship or just giving up on it, so the op is pretty much right. This is a really sad side of Lemmy to see.
I’m gonna be honest, I’ve been a heavy smoker for close to 10 years, many times have I stopped for either a t-break, a drug test, or for just being broke. I have never once experienced anything like you said. Not saying you’re lying, but I’m gonna point out that your anecdote doesn’t apply to everyone.