Once or twice a day is plenty imo, as long as you’re getting enough caloric/nutritional value at those meals and aren’t underweight like you said. I’m the same way. Just don’t be too hard on yourself.

Is it a false equivalence

To compare trying to live and work as a trans person in a world that is hostile to people who are trans, to making the dangerous choice to fly to a genocidal apartheid state as an airline pilot in a world where pilots are highly compensated and in demand? Yes, it very much is.

You can always refuse to fly to Israel :)