Edit: “getting closer to marriage” is about the whole journey starting from being completely single

Edit: if this shower thought is too confusing to be useful to you, then here is a quote that gives some of the same guidance, is simpler, less philosophical, but less broad: “Don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come” - Mario Quintana

    • dullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.caOPEnglish
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      11 months ago

      Properly moving closer to your full potential is how to get a girlfriend. Properly getting a girlfriend and moving closer to family life overall is a way to move closer to your full potential (in other words, living fully). They are the same actions The same actions constitute both.

      Edit: should have said “overall mindset” instead of “actions”

      • MrJameGumb@lemmy.world
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        11 months ago

        You seem to have a very narrow view of what life can offer. There’s much more to life than just getting married and pumping out babies. That may be one person’s idea of “living fully” but it’s hardly applicable to every person in every scenario

        • dullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.caOPEnglish
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          2 days ago

          The narrow view you’re talking about is bad for success in dating, so it’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about things like working on yourself, having your own life, being an interesting person, becoming more confident, etc.

          Edit: i forgot to mention that getting married and having a family doesn’t guarantee that you reach full earthly potential, because there’s a lot of good things to do