Mark boyle, the man who quit money and electricity

Misses the point of marriage, but other than that it’s an awesome glimpse into a more sane future

Pomegranates

Some of the listed things mean that Catholics might put more effort into finding someone, compared to secular dating. Also, people seem to see insanity in how Catholic dating connects to marriage, but I don’t know exactly how that’s perceived. I might not be familiar enough with other dating cultures to know what is relevant.

I defined the first in another comment.

Incel-style pessimistic desperation: persistently sad because no girlfriend; horny; wants an easy short path to having girlfriend; making the other person happier is probably not part of why they start to want romance

I didn’t limit to only what’s specific to Catholics. Also, I’ve heard that Mormons think it’s a big deal to still not be married at a certain age because it affect which level of Heaven you enter.

• marriage is awesome enough to warrant active effort in dating if one is called to marriage, but not at all costs
• standards can be good, even if it means staying single
• no shame or moral inferiority in being single, regardless of age
• marriage almost always should be with another catholic
• no premarital sex or cohabitation
• dating is for finding future spouse, but there’s not too much rush in determining whether or not someone is that future spouse
• relatively wide variety in how long a couple dates before deciding to marry
• normal to date in high school, but some people are against it, and some actively encourage it

Edit: i forgot to mention agape

One comment said “You could think of it as protecting personal data which could translate to protecting his family’s personal data.”

The narrow view you’re talking about is bad for success in dating, so it’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about things like working on yourself, having your own life, being an interesting person, becoming more confident, etc.

Edit: i forgot to mention that getting married and having a family doesn’t guarantee that you reach full earthly potential, because there’s a lot of good things to do

Properly moving closer to your full potential is how to get a girlfriend. Properly getting a girlfriend and moving closer to family life overall is a way to move closer to your full potential (in other words, living fully). They are the same actions The same actions constitute both.

Edit: should have said “overall mindset” instead of “actions”