dullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.ca to Showerthoughts@lemmy.worldEnglish · 1 day agoWhen people say "just be yourself" and criticize intentions, they confuse the glass box with the personality inside, and they take their own glass's cleanliness (what makes it transparent) for grantedmessage-squaremessage-square4linkfedilinkarrow-up16arrow-down118
arrow-up1-12arrow-down1message-squareWhen people say "just be yourself" and criticize intentions, they confuse the glass box with the personality inside, and they take their own glass's cleanliness (what makes it transparent) for granteddullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.ca to Showerthoughts@lemmy.worldEnglish · 1 day agomessage-square4linkfedilink
minus-squareChocoboEnthusiast@leminal.spacelinkfedilinkarrow-up17·1 day agoFor clarity, could you provide an example of what you mean?
minus-squaredullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.caOPlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1·1 day agoAn example of something that makes personality less visible is social anxiety. Changing that kind of stuff doesn’t mean that one is wrongly “forcing it” or being less genuine. Some advice mentioned in these comments are examples of criticizing the intention of finding a romantic partner (“intention” might have been too vague): https://www.reddit.com/r/CatholicDating/comments/1h0gy5r/what_is_some_advice_christian_people_swear_is/ Alternative phrasing of my observation: … they confuse personality with the box surrounding it, and they take their own box’s transparency for granted
For clarity, could you provide an example of what you mean?
An example of something that makes personality less visible is social anxiety. Changing that kind of stuff doesn’t mean that one is wrongly “forcing it” or being less genuine.
Some advice mentioned in these comments are examples of criticizing the intention of finding a romantic partner (“intention” might have been too vague): https://www.reddit.com/r/CatholicDating/comments/1h0gy5r/what_is_some_advice_christian_people_swear_is/
Alternative phrasing of my observation: … they confuse personality with the box surrounding it, and they take their own box’s transparency for granted