11/19/22(Sat)07:22:13 No.71045408
>Tfw boyfriend is asleep 
Why does he do this? Every fucking night?

11/19/22(Sat)07:25:16 No.71045429
>tells me he's not addicted to sleeping 
>goes insane if he doesn't get his daily fix 
>shouts at me for trying to keep him from 
relapsing
  • ryedaft@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    52·
    1 day ago

    Eh, I’ve heard of some men that never got up in the night to deal with the baby / kids. I can understand how a partner could be driven to the brink by that.

    • Alteon@lemmy.world
      5·
      21 hours ago

      That’s totally an older generation thing. My father refuses to change diapers unless he’s the only one there. The grandfather brags that he never changed a diaper in his life. Yeah…that stopped with my generation.

      Most millennial guys that I know are more invested in their kids. They change them, they wake with them, they play with them, they feed them. I don’t understand why older men frowned upon it like it was some sort of horrible thing to take care of your own kids. Toxic masculinity is such a fragile, yet destructive thing.

  • CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works
    27·
    2 days ago

    What the fuck is with women hating men sleeping? I left multiple women because they hit me over a sleep-related event. My brother got hit with a hammer and divorced over it. My friend’s sister would bang pots to wake him up if there was anything left unfinished by the time he went to sleep.

    Fucking nutters out here.

    • morrowind@lemmy.ml
      11·
      1 day ago

      Two main reasons I know:

      1. The “not masculine enough” category of icks
      2. Associated with laziness

      Your experiences seem to be related to #2

    • e̶t̶t̶y̶b̶l̶a̶t̶a̶n̶t̶@lemmy.world
      17·
      2 days ago

      Definitely not gender-restricted. I think every guy I’ve ever dated has poked/shaken/bothered me awake just to ask in a loud whisper “pssst hey are you sleeping??” and when I’d say yes, I was sleeping, they’d be like “okay you should probably keep sleeping” or something like that.

      One guy would find that I wasn’t in bed anymore (he snored) and then come to the couch, poke me to ask if I was sleeping on the couch, and then ultimately climb into the couch with me to then snore some more!

      Looking back it is very endearing, but I’ve never considered hurting someone I love as much as I did in those instances.

      • the_crotch@sh.itjust.works
        10·
        1 day ago

        I think every guy I’ve ever dated has poked/shaken/bothered me awake just to ask in a loud whisper “pssst hey are you sleeping??” and when I’d say yes, I was sleeping, they’d be like “okay you should probably keep sleeping” or something like that.

        They wanted to screw

    • cRazi_man@lemm.ee
      24·
      2 days ago

      My family culture as a child was that sleep was sacred. If there were plans and places to go, but someone was tired and fell asleep on the sofa, then the light would be switched off, a blanket fetched, no one else goes in the lounge and the plans got delayed or cancelled.

      Now I’ve married a woman who wakes me up to ask me if I’m sleeping.

    • steeznson@lemmy.world
      102·
      2 days ago

      This is incredibly specific and I’ve never encountered the women-hating-men-sleeping phenomenon before.

      Do you sleep walk or something? How did you manage to upset them so much while nominally being unconscious? Your post has puzzled me.

        • steeznson@lemmy.world
          41·
          1 day ago

          Holy shit, people are nuts. I didn’t realise it was tied into toxic gender roles like that when I saw OP’s comment at first. It seems like these people are stuck in unhappy marriages/long term relationships and their partners want to hurt them in a societally acceptable way.

          Edit: The youtuber is definitely pandering to a specific niche I suppose. I think other women would call her a “pick-me”. Not that it invalidates what she says but seemed noteable.

      • PhoreTwunny@lemmy.worldEnglish
        10·
        2 days ago

        If I tried to sleep longer than my ex-wife, she would “clean” very loudly in the bedroom until I got up. Conversely if I didn’t want to go to bed the same time she did, she got super butthurt.

        • steeznson@lemmy.world
          6·
          2 days ago

          Yeah ok that is mental. I can see why she is an ex.

          Edit: Just realised you aren’t the OP commenter… is this really a common thing? The internet is eye-opening

          • Comment105@lemm.ee
            7·
            2 days ago

            Some people are insane and unfortunately it’s a little too common to allow them to stay in your life.

            In Norway I’ve heard a lot of threats of buckets of cold water to wake up a “syvsover”. In not sure if I was threatened with it or subjected to it once, I’m 30 and my childhood is a little hazy.

  • Schal330@lemmy.world
    5·
    2 days ago

    Back when I was 15 I had a gf that was basically nocturnal. She’d throw shit at me (e.g. scissors, a knife, a fork) while I was sleeping if I was breathing too loud. If the internet died in the house she would wake me up to try and fix it.